Posted:
12 years ago
^^ I do agree k we become more cautious with age and our spontaneity gets curbed to a great extend where we don't allow ourselves to throw caution to the wind just to "be with someone". Our practical life takes over and our responsibilities, dare I say, shackle us to the real world. But then yaar, I do not think k we are actually LOOKING for a "throwing caution to the wind" type of romance when we get that mature anyways. At least not the kind that we dream about when we're in school or college. We don't just want a guy to sing a ballad for us or shower us with gift or just compliment us every moment - we want these thing ALONG with his sense of responsibility, the stability he offers and the partnership/companionship he offers! Just because he's a great charmer will NOT make us fall in love with him - we'll be attracted to him a bit, maybe even intrigued/infatuated with him.. But in the end, to fall in love, I think we will still look for those concrete qualities that we want in the guy we'd love. And I think those qualities will only be recognized doing the "mundane/unglamorous/simple-routines" in life.. I think those attributes will be noted in how he brings us take out when we're swamped with deadlines and can't leave work for dinner OR how he is there in the middle of the night with a cable to jump start your car when it's stalled on the side of the highway. How he's there to provide you with company/support when crisis hits home or how he's willing to talk to you about the "boring, grown up" stuff.
I think once you get old, love ALWAYS goes through the path of friendship. You don't look for "love at first sight" because that does not exist. You look for a more gradual and deeper form of relationship - and that comes with time and familiarity..