Originally posted by sowmyaa
Aparna, it's not always women in our society who is restricted frome
expressing sexual desire before marriage, but men/boys are also not
encouraged to make love before marriage. I think its just our culture
to be virgin before marriage, including boys and girls. If girls
parents or girl comes to know before marriage in India that guy has
already slept with someone I don't think he would be eligible bachelor.
I disagree with most of your statement . Yes , people prefer the "virginity"package over all .
But guys are given the freedom . Lets says not many restrictions
are put on a guy , where he hangs out , what time of the day he goes
out . Million questions aren't asked when he gets back late at night .
I know this isn't the case with ALL parents .( like my hubby had very
strict parents ......who questioned him a lot) . But i noticed Society
in general does not put too much restriction on the guy . And if the
parent finds out that their son has been messing around , maximum he'll
get is a slap on the wrist .
But if they find out girl is sexuallly active ........its scary
as to what the parents may just do ...........right from taking away
her freedom completely , quickly marrying her off ,beating the cr*p out of her and insulting her making her feel she is a whore ( not in those many words may be) . example of the typical dialogue : " hai hai .....tu mar kyon nahi gayi mun kala karne se phele . "๐
If a parent finds out that their Son has a girl friend , they are less
likely to be paranoid than if they find out their daughter has a
boyfriend . Ofcourse they are afraid she may be expressing her
sexuality.
Thats what i mean that its more repressive towards women in general .๐
Edited by Aparna_BD - 18 years ago