Posted:
18 years ago
I agree with anjali..it also applies to indian women. And as madcap said it has to do with the upbringing and the emotional, social bond between parents and our culture. To be frank if all social and married problems, issues, is not discussed with parents and parents do not play any role in decision making thats healthy to have social bond. For some issues its good to have parents as your advisor as they are the most unbiased and well wishers and most experience one. e.g. when we were building a house my in-laws were visiting us and it was hard for me and my husband to decide what plan to go with and deal with builder and stuff....my FIL's input was very helpful and he was the one who came up with house plan and we both loved it..he also helped us with some decision making it was helpful with his experience, and sometime he would say no he didn't like it just 'coz he is family memeber. So i think sometimes its nice to take their experte advise and there is nothing wrong in that. However, if all small issues are discussed with girl's mother/father or boy's/men mother/father its really irritating.... 😡 and as anjali said yes, parents are possesive about their kids even at mid age.
So i would not say its perfect and good to be independant and never ask ur parents advise or take one....to support kids financially for their education after 18 is not bad...infact, i admire the commitment the parents have for thier children, but once they are 20 they should be left to take their personal decisions and let the learn from their mistakes, if they "ask" for their help you should be always there for them and make them realize also that they are not alone and when no one is there for them their parents are alway there.