DOTW: marriage & intimacy.

 

so here's the discussion for this week guys:

 

marriage and intimacy... do they go hand in hand? is it wrong to have an intimacy but not love, in a marriage? what i mean to say is, nowadays these dramas hype SR's so much, that we have come to relate physical intimacy as the MAIN THING about a marriage. ke marriage hui, love hua, now the main thing - physical intimacy. but the fact is, that physical intimacy is not the main thing about marriage. marriage is about so much more important issues than just physical intimacy.

 

i also believe that physical intimacy goes hand in hand with marriage. no, you don't have to have that sort of a physical relationship with your hubby from day one, but you also don't need to have that kind of a dramatic SR as shown in tv's.. there are married couples who are intimate yet may not be crazily in love with each other. arranged marriages are a major example, where at first the couple isn't in love, but gradually develops the compassion and care. but many of those couples do get physically intimate after awhile, while still developing the care and understanding.

 

so, my question is.. what is your take on marriage, and intimacy (physical)... is it unusual to be have a physical relationship with your husband if your marriage is just a compromise, and you're not really in love with each other? is it wrong? or is it natural - just an element of marriage? as in, it is true that a married husband and wife would need each other for physical needs too - it's not wrong to be physically attracted to your spouse, even if you may not be that much in "love".. right? or to just have that physical relationship while not being in love...

 

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and with that being said, can i plz take a moment to say just how ridiculous this friend of aarti is!  i mean, does she have no idea how fortunate aarti is to get such rishta from such an eligible bachelor and such a reputable family? a guy who is so glad to accept her past AND her kid.. not everyone in our society is like that u know .. and then, just how important it is for aarti to be prepared for this marriage, and to HAPPILY marry yash. and what does the friend expect from aarti? that aarti lives her lifelong marriage with NO INTIMACY with her hubby? just becuz she is marrying for her kid she should not have a real marriage?? WHY? how can you want this for your friend? and on what basis is she putting such atrocious labels on yash?!!! has she seen him in any compromising situation with any girl?! has she seen him EVEN FLIRT with any girl? based on HIS LOOKS she is calling him such stuff? saying that he is only interested in physical intimacy? goshwhat a DUMB friend this is, why is she even aarti's friend! can someone just kick her out! 

 

 

I feel in real world there r girls like Mansi who hv this misconception that Marriage= physical intimacy or lust ...but the reality is this physical intimacy or lust is temporary and if one feels a relationship can b based on just these two factors ,then it wont last for long but maximum for 1 or 2 yrs till that physical hunger is within u for your partner ...once that dies down ,the relationship also starts developing cracks  because u r not emotionally bonded to your partner and if there r no emotional attachments for your partner ,no relationship can work in long run...

 

 

The main foundation of marriage should b trust ,understanding and most important Companionship ...If these 3 factors are not present in a marriage ,it cannot b successful ..

 

 

Physical intimacy is just a part of marriage as every human has their own biological needs but it cannot b a foundation of marriage ever ...the main foundation of marriage mainly depends on  trust ,understanding and companionship ,..😳

 

 

Marriage and intimacy does go hand in hand but intimacy can never be a factor for a strong foundation of marriage 😊

For instance, if you tell your hubby that trust and faith are more important and deny him physical intimacy, then you will know how he changes towards you.  For men phy. int. is very much important in their lives than for women.