Among the several folk dances popular in India
is the Raai dance, that the girls of the Bedia tribe hailing from the
interiors of Madhya Pradesh perform. But what sets this community apart
is that the men of this community don't do any work. The community has
certain old customs, associated with the dance form that the girls have
to abide by and the recently launched Zee TV show Phir Subah Hogi,
highlighjts the plight of the Bedia girls. After Hrs took a trip to the
Bedia community villages in Sagar near Bhopal and met the locals to know
more about Raai dancers and their lives. We spoke to two Raai
dancers, Sangeeta and Urmila. While Urmila claimed to take up Raai
dancing as a passion, 30-year-old Sangeeta reveals that she's been
dancing for more than 10 years now. "I lost my parents at a very young
age and my maternal uncle decided that like my mother, I should take up
Raai and my Sardhakai happened at the age of 20," says Sangeeta. Explaining
the custom of Sardhakai, she adds, "When a Thakur chooses a young girl
from the community for himself, it is similar to a wedding, but minus
the pheras. Once the Sardhakai is done then the girl becomes the
Thakur's official mistress. Once girls start to do Raai, they can only
get Sardhakai done and can never marry as per the traditions." "My
Sardhakai was done by a Thakur who already had children, and his
daughter had married a couple of years ago. I was barely years older to
his daughter. Today I have two children with him, but his real wife and I
share a cordial relationship," reveals Sangeeta as she prepares for her
Raai performance. Meanwhile, 17-year-old Urmila, confesses that
actor Madhuri Dixit's dancing style prompted her to get into Raai. "I
studied till 8th standard, but then I realised I am a performer, and I
wanted to perform those killer moves that people often go crazy for
today. I know I am very beautiful and so just one year in the business, I
have refused many Sardhakai offers made to me. I want to do Sardhakai
with someone who loves me, not my body. But, right now I'm more
concerned about dancing than anything else," says Urmila. She also
accepts that unlike her, there are girls who have made a mark in their
community by going against the traditions and completing their
education.
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