Let me say at the start I am not interested in jodis and I liked all the characters at the start because they all had strengths and weaknesses like all human beings and the relationships portrayed were very real. The mother-daughter bond (a mother who knows the inevitable will happen but does not want to shatter her daughter's dreams), the strong mama-bhanja relationship despite the differences in their personalities, the real animosity between TVS's and TJS's family etc
So those that read this post please read it NOT from the view point of the characters you like BUT as an intelligent audience.
This beautiful serial that started off so well and which we all thought would deal with how a girl would become an inspiration for her community so that future generations of her community would not be tied down by the shackles of Rai and Sardhaki has turned into whether a divorce is acceptable or not?
What a waste of an opportunity to create something unique/different.
To get to this very mundane and not particularly interesting question we have had all of the main characters being butchered so that they have become polar opposites of what they were. We have had resurrecting of dead characters ' wife, mother.
When you cut through all the drama what you are left with is - TVS being told by all that he must stay in his marriage and forget Sugni. He on the other hand wants to divorce Reva, marry Sugni and live his life happily.
No one goes into a marriage with the expectation that it will not work out. But unfortunately not all matches are made in heaven. That is not to say that one or the other person in the marriage is bad. Both people as individuals might be great but together they are not right for each other. In this case, especially where no children are involved it is right for the person who is not happy to seek a divorce. Of course the other person may not want a divorce and it is up to them as a couple to resolve whether they can make the marriage work or whether they go their separate ways provided adequate provisions are made for the future of the weaker spouse which in India tends to be the wife.
No one should be forced to stay in a marriage if they do not wish to do so. If they are, then they will:
- resent/dislike and ultimately hate their partner for forcing them into a relationship they do not want to be part of;
- the partner when they finally accept that the relationship is over will resent the partner for wasting their life
- live as strangers under the same roof, probably show very little kindness/consideration towards each partner,
- probably have an affair(s), use prostitutes etc.
A waste of a lifetime being unhappy, resentful, hating the person you are with is a high price to pay for one mistake.
To make TVS stay in his marriage Sugni will marry Adi thereby making herself unavailable to TVS but live under the same roof.
Only the two people in a marriage can make/break/save a marriage. It is not possible to make someone stay in the marriage they do not want to be in. So their self imposed "sacrifice" will:
- create a totally unholy immoral relationship. A woman cannot have a relationship with 2 men in the same family. Its sick.
- tie them together for a lifetime in a relationship in which one person respects her and her mother but hates her community and have nothing in common
- take away his right to spend his life with a woman he cares for/loves and who has loved him since childhood.
So what have been shown:
We live in the 21st Century. Marriage should not be taken lightly but if after giving it every chance it does not work then a divorce is the answer. NO STIGMA should be attached to a divorce or anyone (men or women) who is divorced.
2. that in the name of sacrifice a IMMORAL unnecessary relationship is formed and God has been used to endorse it. That is SCARLIDGE. The fact this OFF LIMTS relationship is being endorsed by the adults in the family is reprehensible.
This show is watched by viewers with impressionable minds who may see this "Sacrifice" as romantic and put into action. In the real world such an action would destroy lives, destroy a family and in the worst case could cost someone their life. Therefore such sacrifice SHOULD NOT be glamorised.
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