Originally posted by: Oneandall
Taashu I understand what you are saying. Your point is that slapping your spouse is wrong but in some situations such as heated arguments in which anger, pain and guilt surface a slap happens. In that case it's natural. Maybe we come from different walks of life, different experiences but for me there is nothing natural about someone slapping their spouse because he/she provoked them with their words. NO MATTER WHAT THE SITUATION MAY BE. See where you and I differ with regards to slapping (let's forget about DV that's a by product of a slap but much more complex than that) is that you say that a slap is wrong but there are conditions in which it is right but I say that slapping your spouse is wrong no matter what the condition is. That's my general opinion about abuse within a relationship, be it one slap or one million, I still maintain my stance.
But to be specific and talk about it in terms of the update in which the slap happened. Well first of all it's just a story and I don't want to knit pick someone's creative work to bits and pieces. Ram in real BALH would not do that, especially given the fact that Raya had many heated arguments which diffused without the need for a slap (they bitterly hated each other but ram never hit Priya and Priya never hit ram). But still, you said in the update u are on Ram's side. lol by all means your opinions are respected. However, I am on Priya's side...let me explain why. First Priya did whatever she did (run away from Ram) for his well being. Did ram ask her why? NO! Ram taunted her into depression, she still wanted the best for him (waiting up for him at dinner). Did he see her love shining through than? NO! She asked him to forgive her, punish her in any way but take away the hatred. Did his mahaan love show up than to give her a chance to explain?Did she ask to be abused? NO and NO! The time the slap happened Ram found her anklet and asked her why she left him. Did he instigate the fight by not letting her explain and by continuing to repeat the same nonsense? YES!
She said how she felt and was just as angry. Ram practically ignored her, lived for peehu, she might as well be dead physically because mentally he had killed her. Was she angry too? YES! WAS HER LOVE TESTED, INSULTED TORN APART ALL AT ONCE? WAS HER ANGER JUSTIFIED? YES! Did the truth cause ram pain? Does that give him the right to cause pain to the person who was telling him the truth? NOT IN MY BOOK!
Could Ram have dragged her forcefully to the hidden room where he kept her memories which she had no memory of? OF COURSE!
So from Priya side I saw love and anger. From Ram's side I saw anger, ego, hatred and yea a tiny bit of love. He has immense love for Priya but his actions spoke otherwise so how was she to know? Without that information whatever she said was right. To convey that information to her, well there were many other methods...
My god this is so long again. But khair, my heart became lighter. 😆
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