Hi girls!
Before reading my post, know that my post is just my opinions, my thoughts, observations, etc. Neither am I influenced by anyone's words, nor am I biased. What I see is right is right, or what I see is wrong is wrong. I don't run with the majority, or minority.
I didn't start the dP family,but I am the eldest so I will talk to you guys like you are my little sisters. I love you girls like you are my younger sisters. I don't have favorites, and I do not love one more than the other because in my eyes you guys are equal. Never have I treated you guys differently. If I did, then PM me, message me and we will talk about it personally. However, yes, there are members that I talk to more often because of WhatsApp or texting, but that doesn't mean I love the other members any less and that doesn't mean the people that I do interact with more have influenced me. I don't listen to one side of the story and not grasp the other side. People who do that, may God help them.
Family? Let me provide you all a definition – a group of people united by a common affiliation. Hmmm girls do we even act like a family? Nahi, na? We all like to have a great time together, that is our motto, haina? We don't act like a family yet when Vanshika posted that she will close down this CC, we all decide to cry for help. Hmm weird. Some questions I have to ask you all; why have we decided to stop talking to each other? Why have we started to talk behind others back? Why have we taken matters in our own hand and decide to bash others and degrade one another? Why are dPians' names being erased from the list without talking to the clueless other members? And today, I am ashamed to call myself a dPian. Didn't expect this at all.
I don't know what has happened over the past couple of weeks other than what you guys have told me. To be honest, all I have notice is some changes in the dPians. The dPians got divided. After Jen's exit, it was Vanshika, Jasman, and Damini. You three were always together. I haven't seen Aarti in a while nor talk to her that much. And then next I know Asha is out of the dP family, on here and on fB. Um explanations girls? And I am serious, I want to know what happened to Asha. 7 months of beautiful friendship got turned into utter crap. Division of members, member's names are erased – aren't we acting like kids here? No? Reality hasn't hit any of you guys yet because I see a lot of childish acts here.
Majority of you are adults so act like adults. Mini and Aarti, you guys are the youngster in the family, but either take my advice or leave it. If you guys don't like something about a person, confront that person. Don't be a coward and go against them. If you guys wanted to involve someone, you could have talked to me. I am not biased. I don't side with anyone. I don't know how many times I have told each and everyone here that whenever you need a pair of ears, I am always available. Just say the word. I can help. I won't get involved but I can help you sort out your differences. It would be better if there was mediator instead of a fiasco like we are dealing with. And please stop making accusations. That is a coward act. You have no other way to defend yourself, so you go making accusations about other people just so that you can have people support you. Please, that is childish. Refer to the first sentence of this paragraph. Get it? One more thing: we are a family, then why can't we trust each other? I trusted you all. What is the problem then? Do we not like each other? I think that may be one of the problems.
I am not perfect nor do I say I am, but if you have a problem with me or in the near future ever do have a problem with me, talk to me instead of going behind my back and talking about me, because I am damn sure you all wouldn't like if someone goes behind your back and talks crap. Ever heard the quote, treat someone the way you want to be treated? And if you all think I may have been avoiding any of you, then please get your facts right. The past couple of weeks have been hectic for me with finals and graduation, then post-graduation.
If none of you liked what I wrote or said, or if I hurt you in anyway, then I am sorry. In order for this CC to stay, everyone needs a wakeup call. This post was for everyone in the dP family. There are some issues I would like to deal with some of the members individually and I will do that in my own time and that too privately.
New Years is just around the corner, and I would hate to start the New Year on a bad note.
Cheers!
This content was originally posted by: ..-Jia-..
@Jas: Ok! I am sorry. I forgot that you three were the most active there. This goes to my next point: so why did you stop messaging me on WhatsApp? That was our form of communication as well.The last time, I was the one to message you and I asked for forgiveness because I thought I had done something wrong that might have hurt you. Then you told me you didn't have time and I would know this better. Yet you had time to skype or oovoo or WhatsApp others. 😕
This is getting way out of proportion. But Vanshi you said that this CC is our battle ground. Everything needs to be sorted out now.
Hi girls!
Before reading my post, know that my post is just my opinions, my thoughts, observations, etc. Neither am I influenced by anyone's words, nor am I biased. What I see is right is right, or what I see is wrong is wrong. I don't run with the majority, or minority.
I didn't start the dP family,but I am the eldest so I will talk to you guys like you are my little sisters. I love you girls like you are my younger sisters. I don't have favorites, and I do not love one more than the other because in my eyes you guys are equal. Never have I treated you guys differently. If I did, then PM me, message me and we will talk about it personally. However, yes, there are members that I talk to more often because of WhatsApp or texting, but that doesn't mean I love the other members any less and that doesn't mean the people that I do interact with more have influenced me. I don't listen to one side of the story and not grasp the other side. People who do that, may God help them.
Family? Let me provide you all a definition ' a group of people united by a common affiliation. Hmmm girls do we even act like a family? Nahi, na? We all like to have a great time together, that is our motto, haina? We don't act like a family yet when Vanshika posted that she will close down this CC, we all decide to cry for help. Hmm weird. Some questions I have to ask you all; why have we decided to stop talking to each other? Why have we started to talk behind others back? Why have we taken matters in our own hand and decide to bash others and degrade one another? Why are dPians' names being erased from the list without talking to the clueless other members? And today, I am ashamed to call myself a dPian. Didn't expect this at all.
- I know this is regarding something later in the post but it fits in here too. Jia says we have been acting childish. I openly admit to acting like a child. Because being an adult, I am a child. I've always known that. But do you guys know what my childish definition of a family is? (Since Jia has shared hers.) A group of people that LOVE each other. And I love each and every one of you. Even real families have arguments at some point or another, that doesnt mean they dont love each other.
- In response to "when Vanshika posted that she will close down this CC, we all decide to cry for help. Hmm weird." I think some of us werent even aware that there were certain problems existing. When Vanshika posted the message, I was surprised at first. Its only when I asked her that she shared with me that there is some tension. Thats when I had the knowledge that there were problems and thats when I decided to go mend them. Had I known before and had the time, I would have acted sooner.
- I cant answer all of Jia's questions but I know that we all haven't stopped talking to one another. We have been busy with school/uni/friends/family. Especially with the holidays, it becomes a busy time of year. I mean, I have a cousin in India. I have not talked to him and several months now because hes been busy with work and myself with uni. I still love him with all my heart and soul, and thats never going to change. Same with dPs. If I dont talk to someone for a certain length of time, I dont love them any less. Including you Jia.
I don't know what has happened over the past couple of weeks other than what you guys have told me. To be honest, all I have notice is some changes in the dPians. The dPians got divided. After Jen's exit, it was Vanshika, Jasman, and Damini. You three were always together. I haven't seen Aarti in a while nor talk to her that much. And then next I know Asha is out of the dP family, on here and on fB. Um explanations girls? And I am serious, I want to know what happened to Asha. 7 months of beautiful friendship got turned into utter crap. Division of members, member's names are erased ' aren't we acting like kids here? No? Reality hasn't hit any of you guys yet because I see a lot of childish acts here.
- This concern I addressed in my last message so I won't do it again. From what I understand about Asha, there was a misunderstanding and is in progress to be mended.
Majority of you are adults so act like adults. Mini and Aarti, you guys are the youngster in the family, but either take my advice or leave it. If you guys don't like something about a person, confront that person. Don't be a coward and go against them. If you guys wanted to involve someone, you could have talked to me. I am not biased. I don't side with anyone. I don't know how many times I have told each and everyone here that whenever you need a pair of ears, I am always available. Just say the word. I can help. I won't get involved but I can help you sort out your differences. It would be better if there was mediator instead of a fiasco like we are dealing with. And please stop making accusations. That is a coward act. You have no other way to defend yourself, so you go making accusations about other people just so that you can have people support you. Please, that is childish. Refer to the first sentence of this paragraph. Get it? One more thing: we are a family, then why can't we trust each other? I trusted you all. What is the problem then? Do we not like each other? I think that may be one of the problems.
- I cant speak for everyone but I myself have trusted everyone and loved everyone. I think I've said that enough times by now.
I am not perfect nor do I say I am, but if you have a problem with me or in the near future ever do have a problem with me, talk to me instead of going behind my back and talking about me, because I am damn sure you all wouldn't like if someone goes behind your back and talks crap. Ever heard the quote, treat someone the way you want to be treated? And if you all think I may have been avoiding any of you, then please get your facts right. The past couple of weeks have been hectic for me with finals and graduation, then post-graduation.
If none of you liked what I wrote or said, or if I hurt you in anyway, then I am sorry. In order for this CC to stay, everyone needs a wakeup call. This post was for everyone in the dP family. There are some issues I would like to deal with some of the members individually and I will do that in my own time and that too privately.
New Years is just around the corner, and I would hate to start the New Year on a bad note.
- I see Jia's also on board. So lets make this a good, fresh start to the New Years for EVERYONE.
Cheers!
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