DOTW - 16th December 2012

Hello everyone.
Its Razia again 😃 - the very much silent member on the forums.

My discussion is fairly general. Considering what happened on today's mahaepisode I had a basic well very general topic to discuss on and was really was really wondering what to write.
Anyways,I'm really happy and upset on how CVS are handling this track
1. Night college that too filled with random lying
2. Hiding from bhabo = more problems in the future.
Anyway my basic discussion question is:
should they really do this behind Bhabo's back?
I know they was no other solution from Suraj and they didn't intend to hide such from Bhabo as this was thier last choice.
But will SurYa be successful in such doings for an entire year or they will be caught and drama will happen for years.
You know there is a saying from the older folk that by starting wrong they is a high risk for failure.(I'm sorry I can't remember the exact saying I'm just giving it on my own words) bit before jumping on this point on mine think and and ask your self if they are not starting wrongfully!
Please have a healthy discussion ...
No offence meant. Will be BA k to have a proper discussion with you
I have not yet place my opinion here will discuss with you all.
Razia

PS: I'm usuing my phone so will edit this discussion properly..sorry for he extreme short colorless topic

I do not quite accept this decision of hiding the education from Bhabo as it would lead to problems in future for sure. Bhabo will surely consider it as a breach of trust and Sandhya will lose the trust and faith of Bhabo which she earned through hard work and selfless love for other family members. Bhabo will be hart-broken and would blame SurYa afterwards for anything that goes wrong in the house. CVs purposefully did this for dramatic purpose, so that they can give us tensed moments but this will cause more harm than good for SurYa in future. Also, there was no option apart from this, save for one golden blackmailing chance, as Sandhya would have lost one year, and Bhabo wasn't even ready to hear anything about education, I guess Suraj had to do it keeping in mind the future aspects of Sandhya.

Nice question. I had taken out a thread a few days back ' Unrealistic Portrayal' in which I had vehemently argued against this hiding. I had also emphasised on the unrealistic showing of somebody leaving every night without any one knowing in a joint family. Not telling Bhabo was the biggest blunder Suraj made. He could have blackmailed his mother instead of Sandhya. Bhabo was desperate to stop him from signing the contract. The love for her son would have made her concede. Sandhya could have studied in peace. Neither Suraj blackmailed his mother nor Sandhya told Bhabo , so two missed opportunities.  With so much going on everyday can anyone study ? The trust which Sandhya took a year to build up will be destroyed in seconds. However in my thread I was told one should not look for too much realism in serials. Serials are meant for entertainment and this stand has been taken by CVs to ensure future aangan dramas. I consoled myself thinking atleast we will see some SurYa moments in the track.  If you give an unrealistic presentation in episodes you cannot inspire the traditional audience. A conservative man may be uneducated or less educated but he will know what he can emulate and get inspired with and what is just to be watched and forgotten. Now in this track DABH is neither realistic, so it cannot inspire nor entertaining as it hardly has any SurYa moments so what are the CVs aiming at.  To inspire or entertain ? The serial a few months back appeared so promising. I used to watch many of the scenes again and again. Now I fast forward. I really hope the CVs realise  what they are doing. Edited by UMDU - 11 years ago

@ umdu I am also fast-forwarding now...will discuss in a bit

Okay okay ... I will stop my bhashan now! If such a long post doesn't get the discussion going, I don't know what will! 😆

What if Suraj would tell to bhabo that ok we cant make her an IPS but let her just study n complete her graduation...!!! Well I think after some no no bhabo would agree...!!! Chhavi is also studying so at least a girl who is studying is not that shocking for bhabo...!!! Bhabo didn't let Sandy cause she wants to be an IPS, only graduation is not her aim...
So why I am telling all these...!!! Cause what Surya ia doing now is not that scary and anti-traditional for bhabo...!!! IPS thing is much more hard to digest for her which SurYa wont be able to do hide from bhabo...!!! So what then??? What option they have if bhabo wont agree then?? One option is going rudely against bhabo n another make her understand...!!! But they r destroying two options from now...!!! The guilt they will have when bhabo will get hurt because of their hiding now... wont let them go against bhabo rudely...!!! And one day bhabo will understand Sandy's dream--- this option is also ruined because of the deception bhabo is getting..!!! SurYa is not thinking about the future consequences n their ultimate aim which is making Sandy IPS not graduation only...!!!
Yap... being a graduate is a big thing... But is it worth for Sandy if she cant become an IPS...!!! If it was then of course their decision was justified cause hiding or whatever... she became an graduate at least..!!! But she once told it will more hurtful if she graduates n cant become an IPS which actually disappointed me cause study is an asset itself u choose to make a career or not...!!!! So to ease their present they r making unimaginable trouble for future...!!! I would go against bhabo n wouldn't care much about what she says if I was Sandy but as per SurYa's humbleness... I suggest they should have waited n keep trying to convince bhabo... A year lost of Sandy wouldn't hurt much than the upcoming troubles she is gonna get...!!! Lost of trust, blame of lying etc etc...!!!

There r two types of lying... One is like if I wanna go to a picnic for example.. I am lying to my mom that I am going to study with my friend...!!! When my mom will know about the truth she is gonna be hurt, will scold me n all that but I already enjoyed my picnic... So I should not care much...!!!😳
Another type is  though I am failing, I am saying that I am getting good grades just to avoid her scold but when she will know... Double scold for failing n deceiving n also I was in tension like hell during these days thinking always what will happen when she will know...!!!
SurYa's lie is second type...!!!

I would like to get into this discussion again. If Suraj  continues with this facade of taking Sandhya secretly to college at night everyday, does he honestly believe he can carry on without discovery for a year. Two days of college have lead to innumerable question answering at home and several dramatic incidents.  Monday has Mohit's question to be answered.  Once caught what is to stop Bhabo from asking Sandhya to withdraw from college. In the aangan drama which will follow either Suraj puts his foot down and says his wife will study. In which case Bhabo may in anger stop talkng to him or ask him to move out. There also either you defy or withdraw from college. Don't you think it would have been better to blackmail her now and make her agree. Strike the iron when it is hot. In the second situation you hurt Sandhya more if she is asked to withdraw. As you have given her hope and taken it away from her. Otherwise if you support Sandhya you hurt Bhabo so deeply that you will not be able to live with that guilt. Emotional blackmail before contract signing would have done the trick without hurting both the parties too much. I feel it was a missed opportunity.

Nice topic for discussion Razia.  

razia...much .needed topic for now...thanks for creating this thread...🤗.

y all r blaming surya for hiding night college.😭..🥺...

cvz...shown some grace in their moves...see below wt r they?

1. suraj to knw abt sandhya's dream...

2. suraj remainded abt sandhya's dream to her...

3.  suraj to support sandhya to achieve her dream...

4. suraj said t o bhabo abt sandhya's dream...

5. bhabo angry...

6. suraj convincing...

7. bhabo's cheapest(indicating just her act) act to sandhya to kill her dream and accept new dream of bhabo...

8. suraj drama to convince bhabo...

9. sandhya said to suraj,her dream is dead...now she has new dream...

10. suraj disappointed abt sandhya's act...other side bhabo is happy...

11. suraj heared wt bhabo said to sandhya(very imp one)...this only changed suraj's mind to go against bhabo...

in this only..suraj knw abt her mother's true face...now...tell me...is bhabo did good one,by hiding truth of sandhya's sudden change behaviour is bcz of her...and is she right? by doing actbehind his own son...and is she right? by acting with 2 faces...to suraj...

is she right? by brainwashed sandhya to forget her dream...by blackmailing with her emotions...if all say she is right, then our surya doing is also right...

12. suraj admitted sandhya in night college and sandhya dnt like that idea...so she not supported suraj's decision...

13. suraj plan to convince sandhya...bhabo indirectly said her to continue her dream to sandhya...so sandhya accepted suraj's idea...here..ur question is...surya doing is wrong by hiding truth to bhabo...right?...suraj tried his level best to convince bhabo but its actually bhabo's problem to not accepting sandhya's dream...read samir's reply for more reasons...he mentioned very clearly...y suraj pick up another way from telling truth to bhabo...

14. sandhya going to college now...with lots of difficulties...facing by both surya...

15. monday episode is live example for whom telling wrong abt suraj's lie...see now..bhabo's words...after consider it would be cinema...thats y suraj hides it from bhabo...but one day he will tell or she herself will find it...in both case...lots of dramas r there...so for now...just enjoy episode...with free mind...

not all shows r showing realistic things...mostly in tv v can get unrealistic thing only...they too humans...some families r around dabh...so they r working for people's happiness and for own and for sp...for the sake of trp's...in tv...all consider...trp only to run the shows...

if they shown...suraj convinced bhabo by some dramas and bhabo accepted it...than sandhya going to college and achieved her dreams...this is only wanted...

or

bhabo accepted and bhabo's kitchen politics in sandhya's studies...then...torturing her with household work...this also wanted by more...

or

bhabo will accept to suraj's request by convicing drama...but bhabo's another is going to brain wash sandhya once again to let her dream to dead...

u all feel sandhya will continue her studies...never...👎🏼...

see how cvz gradually showed scenes perfectly...they r doing their job right...in my pov...


and abt surya moments...this is education track...how v can expect cvz to show some surya moments....that too most of them...dnt like...just hand touching romance......they want phd romance..🤪...😲.////.😆...

i think this is not fair..🥺...if they show surya romancing each other in this track...then all will say...this is un realistic...😆...🤣...

actually i thought abt create threa for this...but after seeing this thread and all reply...i just posted wt i want to say after reading all replies...

p.s...if i am wrong.👎🏼..u can give ur honest reply...if i am right...just give HI-FIVE......😳...

hi-five sindu 👍🏼...

Edited by niruba - 11 years ago