Originally posted by Nach_Baliye
The intention is NOT to feel proud; rather it is a sense of relief. I know I feel relieved that I moved to the US, and am able to wear whatever I want without having to deal with eve-teasing, and that I can go out late at night by myself. I do feel a deep sense of relief that I don't have to worry or curb my schedule for lack of safety. That doesn't mean I am proud or that I don't feel for women in India, if anything it makes it even more horrible because I know that things can be different. For example, this morning while speaking to my mother, her POV was that so what if girls don't wear shorts, its not the end of the world. Her point was that since government is not making strict rules we women have to self-preserve. However, I objected to that because why should women have to curb their desires? Men need to keep it in their pants and women need to demand for that to happen.
Seeing how things are different in my city, clearly it is possible and the government needs to take very strict action to make it happen. If anything it makes me even more horrified for the plight of women in India. My sense of relief doesn't make me less empathetic to women in India. In fact my siblings are in India, and I am so so glad that my sister recently moved from Gurgaon to Mumbai. Mumbai is not that safe, but overall compared to Delhi/Gurgaon it is better for women.
Again, my respond was to the word "proud"... but if it was just a miss expressed thoughts, then fine... otherwise everything u said is logical and make sense...
Regarding the dressing... Actually I somehow agree with ur mother... I understand that there r 3 types of men... type regardless of women dressing won't ever rape them... type regardless of women dressing will always try to rape them... type that their decision r affected by women dressing...
So, for 1st and 2nd types dressing has no role in their actions... but for the last type it does... so by being more conservative in your dressing u may save ur self from that type... at least reducing the probability of danger...
As members from US said, despite the existance of strong legal system such crimes still happen... coz such systems can assure u the justice but cant assure u prevention of being raped since there will always be sick characters and weak characters in any society that give damen to law...
Thus u can wear very short dresses but then u have to take the increasing risk of being a victim... or to reduce the risk probability, u better be more conservative in ur dressing...
btw, stats as well as poeple words (citizens and foreigners) did indicate coutries where women r more conservative in their dressing and rarely go out at night without a man company have lower rates of such crimes than other coutries, bearing in mind all compared countires here do have strong legal systems..