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@Sush:
Divya is not entirely wrong in forming her opinion against Sarita if you look at it from her POV. Divya comes from a very cultured family where apparently everyone cares for each other. Her parents must have been cultured too as the value system of her family is very different from Raj's family. All siblings care for each other and share their thoughts. When Divya's brother pointed out the reason for her anger, her SIL (Rohan's wife) scolded him. But Divya was open enough to agree with his comment. Raj that she knew was also cultured and her match. He never shared anything about his family with her and she was so much only into him that she probably thought of his parents as being like Raj.
Then when she goes to his house for the first time, he sees only the mother who is so star struck. She did cringe initially when Kamla was showing her true colors. But then got shellshocked to hear about the wife - her worst fear that Raj has moved on coming through. Also, when Kamla was asking Sarita to bring the tea, there was no response from her. Then she brought the tea without any snacks ( a big inhospitable thing in India) and then slammed it on the table in a very rude manner. Divya doesn't have any idea what Sarita is tolerating from this family or how she is being daily compared to Divya's serial role. Or that Raj has ignored her for all these years because of Divya. So she promptly forgot or chose to ignore Kamla's bad behavior. Probably she justified to herself that Kamla was like that because Sarita is the bad one. Also she apparently thinks highly of parents as she probably got very good parents who taught her to respect elders.
She was angry that Raj had moved on when she (Divya) apparently did not do so. So she was faithful to him, but he was not (again from her view point). She knows that her life is an open book and she is a public figure. So from her POV, Raj knows that she never married anybody in 10 years. Probably, she even was not linked with anybody or she could have said in interviews that there was nobody in her life. So she assumed that Raj would know that she waited for him. And here he married and that too an uncouth woman when he was a guy of refined tastes. So her judgment of Sarita is coming from two factors - her anger at Raj and hence her desire to see Sarita as somebody unworthy of her Raj, and also because she probably thinks that Raj's parents are extension of Raj. Another factor is a guilt in her that she did injustice to Raj. She views Raj with rosy-colored glasses because he did so much for her - taught her acting, dress style, removed her fears and taught her to believe in herself. Also distance of 10 years must have made her remember only the best things about him and more than likely she only saw the best of him because their relationship was so much outside his house life and in a different environment.
Also, Sarita herself admitted that she is not behaving what she taught by her parents as Raj's family is uncouth and uncultured. So the only way to deal with them is to become like them. She is different with Raj - soft and quiet. There is no communication between them probably because Raj has discouraged it. So she looks at his chivalrous behavior (and he is considerate of her physical discomfort) and seems to fall for it. Wonder if she herself ever tried to break his walls and just used her body to try to entice him.
He and Sheela (the sister) seem to be quite different from the rest of the family. But Sarita has been brought down to a really low level because she has become Kamla in her behavior. To me, it feels that it would also be Sarita's journey where she would also look at her behavior and probably realize that she too has fallen and become like people whom she detests (Kamla and her daughters). It is more than likely that Divya would be the one to teach her that and she would be the one to teach Divya to look below the surface. Divya still has not learnt to confront all her fears and she still wants to see what is convenient. She ignores everything that doesn't belong in her comfort zone. So it seems that it would be exploration of Divya and Sarita together where they would learn to look deep into themselves. Raj too would in this exploration learn to open his eyes to other views because he too chooses to believe what he wants to believe.
There is very little introspection on all three characters parts as of now. If anything, I see Divya the most mature of all three as she is open to a different view point and does listen to an alternative view point. So more than likely she would be the first one to introspect in this triangular relationship. Maybe the other relationship with Gaurav would help her too because he may be more grounded than other three.
However, I have to say one thing that creatives have been clever because according to the last synopsis and interview, it seems that the plan is to have Raj move on with Sarita with the help of Divya. Before the show started, people were more interested in seeing Raj together with Divya as they are soulmates. But now the opinion has shifted to have the ending that creatives have in mind. So they have managed to create acceptance for Sarita in audience mind even though she is not Raj's soulmate. So they are trying to show that soulmates do not always have to be together and people do and should move on. If that is the theme, so far they are going in the right direction as of now.
In the end, I don't think that Divya is by any means an unsympathetic character just because she hoped that her love would wait for her or that she should not be heartbroken just because she clung to some impossible standard of somebody waiting for you. They were her ideals that unfortunately did not come true. She herself waited for Raj, otherwise she could have found somebody else too (rich, good looking and her intellectual equal) in those 10 years. Sarita and Raj too went into this marriage with open eyes where Sarita was aware that Raj was not into this relationship even before they got married. Raj too chose not to wait for Divya and decided to go ahead with the marriage for whatever reason (maybe had no means to support himself if the father cut him off or did not care). So all three made choices. If Sarita is getting sympathy for making her choice and still not finding happiness, Divya deserves equal sympathy for that. Why is she supposed to understand Sarita's behavior when she had never visited Raj's home before or had no knowledge of characters of this house?
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