As much as I may not agree with young people marrying so young, I feel compelled to defend SK and R. The argument can be made that R did not feel welcomed at Padma's house. Kal did nothing to protect her sisters from P's wrath nor did she make much of an attempt to prevent Padma from acting like a GW. Kal's main focus was her life, Mohan's peace of mind and the perseverance of her MIL's family. It is easy to see why R may have felt rejected and alone in this type of family situation (I recall an instance when R is asking Thuls, if she can live with them). 😡
At this point, it is easy to see why a girl like R would fall for a boy like SK. Not only did SK choose her, he puts her before everyone else...a feeling R hasn't had, since the death of her mother. As much as Mohan's family looks after R, they also regard her as a burden (as seen by Padma constantly reminding Kal & co. that her son was generous enough to take R and her sister in). This probably led R to develop an inferiority complex of sorts, which tends to make her act out against anyone who she believes to be against her...like Pavi. To R, Pavi is living, what she (R) can never have...Pavi has a caring family, affectionate parents, a doting brother & sister-in-law...R has none of these thing in her life. Yes she has her sister, but even her sister would take the side of her in-laws instead of her sisters. 😡
The way I see it, R is in the same boat Thuls was in, at the beginning of the series. While Thuls is the epitome of patience and virtue and had Paati by her side, R has no one...and as such, is prone to behaving more irrationally. She couldn't help falling in love and it's unfair of that family to force her to sacrifice her love for the sake of "family maanam" (whatever that means). What Mohan and Kal should have done was talk to SK's parents and hammer out concrete conditions with regards to the potential proposal (such as: no marriage till R is finished school or till Pavi is married or till SK can prove himself to be self-controlled etc). 😡
And on this topic, I don't blame SK's parents; they are trying to do the right thing...they want their son to be happy...which is something that has been noticeably absent in this serial since the passing of Paati and Kal's mom. Is SK immature? Yes. But again, do we really have any control over who we fall in love with? No. He is sincere in his love and his intent to marry R, is applaudable...his methods on the other hand, not so much. But then again, considering all that we have seen in this serial (i.e. temple marriages, nethi-kaadan marriages, threatening suicide marriages), the fact that he is even willing to consider getting the approval of the R's family is mind-boggling. He had every right to be as unreasonable as Mohan, and yet he chose to listen to his dad, TA and R. He made the right decision to listen to his elders. He maybe rash and impulsive, but his heart is in the right place...unfortunately, he doesn't have the brains to back it up. 😡
This Mohan however, really irritates me...if hitting him was that big of an offence, why is TA still alive and walking? When it's his blood relative (i.e. Thuls), there is no "maanam problem", but if it's Kal's sister, then it is? What kind of logic is this? And to think TA even cracked his skull open in the middle of the road, yet no "maanam problem" occurred then. And this Kal...why couldn't she have pointed out Mohan's thiruvilayadals? How is SK any more of a rascal then Mohan used to be? As far as we know, SK isn't an alcoholic nor is he using drugs. Mohan can expect Kal to forgive all his misdemeanours and accept him, but he can't do the same with SK? What is Mohan, a special snowflake and everyone else, dirt? 😡
This sentiment runs in the family apparently, as Thuls too is back to begging and pleading mode. There is one thing I don't understand, why does she need TA's permission to talk to her best friend? Why is TA's input even necessary? Did Thuls forget all the times D stood up for her, even when her own parents told D not too? Did Thuls forget all the times D bore GW & Lav's gutter mouths for Thuls' sake? If at all these junctions, TA did nothing...then why should Thuls get his permission? TA can be friends with Joseph, even after all the drogams he did, but Thuls shouldn't talk to D because D's parents insulted him...what kind of logic is this? One thing is for sure, TA's BILs are all exactly the same. 😡
Urgh, and even after all this trash, I'm still being updated on this serial. Thanks a lot to all the updaters, because you guys are the reason I still watch this show. Sorry for writing so much, but I just felt the need to address the inconsistent characterization of these characters. Honestly, at this point in the game, I would have preferred if SK and R ran away, got married, lived happily ever after or whatever...just so we wouldn't have to witness a non-brave Kal, crazy Mohan, gutter mouthed Padma and always crying R. Seriously, I thought Prabha alone was enough of a psycho on this show, but clearly the director intends for everyone who is not THULS, to be crazy. 😡
P.S. Sorry for this LONG rant. I have't written a comment this long, in a long time.
