Do you BELIEVE in PRE-MARTIAL SEX?

India is getting more modern these days.  But, it is good to know someone and have sex before marriage than after.  That is why arranged marriages fail.  This might be an interesting debate.  Do you believe in PRE-MARTIAL SEX?  Please share your thoughts.  😲

Yes

LoveProfusion, Definitely this is an important topic. But I strongly don't believe about premarital sex.




Edited by maha2us - 10 years ago

Originally posted by: maha2us

LoveProfusion, Definitely this is an important topic. But I strongly don't believe about premarital sex.

We seem to copy everything non sense from the Westerners. Whether people believe in being modern or not, some rules of this World never change whatever be the era and these are the rules which help a person to make a mark. 

Sex is an important part of the marriage but not everything in the marriage. Marriage whether it is arranged one or loved one, it works when the two partners work continuously to be with each other, present to each other and available to each other. Marriage works when each partner improves the capability of being more caring, compassionate, gentle, tender and understanding to each other. The partners have to improve the capability of being forgiving to each other and developing unconditional love for each other. This is the way the two persons improve the trust one has for the other and also become committed to each other. When the two partners develop these qualities, they grow a lot with the help of each other. This is the way the marriage has to be made to work.

When the premarital sex, a man would have sex with a woman and then he will reject her and then move on to another woman as he is just having sex without any commitment. If she feels he is totally for her, she would be extremely dejected and disappointed. how will she be taken care of? Don't talk about she could get legal ways to take care of herself. the judicial system is really terrible.

it is definitely good to know someone before marriage, but that doesn't include having sex before marriage. There have been arranged marriages because the youngsters with limited experiences don't know what is best for them and are not that mature to find everything about their prospective partners. How things are before marriage is not the same as how things are after marriage. This is the reason many marriages fail in the West. 

Originally posted by: LoveProfusion

India is getting more modern these days.  But, it is good to know someone and have sex before marriage than after.  That is why arranged marriages fail.  This might be an interesting debate.  Do you believe in PRE-MARTIAL SEX?  Please share your thoughts.  😲

I will mention one more point. Loveprofusion, You say, 'It is good to know someone and also have sex before marriage.' The point here is the two parts you say are very different things. Definitely it is good to know someone. But knowing someone before marriage is not so easy and it requires a lot of maturity. Those who go for love marriage believe both of them have found the dream partner and so tie the knot. Probably they may even have had exciting sex also. But after marriage, they find they are disappointed with each other. How could this happen? This is because during courtship, each person can hide certain traits of himself/herself from the other person as both the partners would have fear of rejection and those traits become known only after marriage. And marriage is just not about having sex. You have to tolerate your partner understanding him/her for twenty-four hours. This is the reason there has been arranged marriages and horoscope matching through long eras in our country.

No, I don't. I may not the best example for moral judgment, but I do know my limits, and I do have respect for my peers and the upbringing of my parents. And when I say that, I am talking about respecting their advices that they have always given me, which include refraining from indulging in an intimate relationship with a person I am not legally married to.

I personally am on the same page as my peers and elders, as I feel the pleasure derived from using my body is reserved for only that person whom I would be legally married to - my wife! No matter how many years I would date a person and be totally in love with them, I would never unzip my pants until we exchange our rings.

That is my personal philosophy and opinion about 'pre-marital' sex.

There was already a thread on the same topic more than year ago where certain members were fighting cats and dogs to make their points across. 

Pre-marital sex isn't something like pixie dust that you choose to believe in or not. It is a reality that exists as true as gravity. You can choose to engage in it or not.

 

My perception is, to each their own. If someone wants to wait till marriage, that is their choice and it must be respected. If someone chooses to have sexual relations before marriage, that is their choice and it must be respected.

 

The only immoral sex in my opinion is non-consensual sex or deceitful sex where you lie to your partner and/or the person you're sleeping with.

Absolutely, I think it's important to experience all aspects of a relationship before committing to a marriage.