Are men allowed to cry?

Think of a situation. You're a guy - a tough one, that too. You are flanked by your male friends all the time who do nothing but project their hyperactive testosterone levels. You poke fun at random bypassers, you comment on how funny one looks, and you throw wild tantrums at the drop of a hat. You are - what they call - the perfect epitome of a MASCULINE IDENTITY in the society.

However, deep down inside you do have "emotions" that are, perhaps, concealed at times. So it happens one day that you are hurt. You're fragile and vulnerable. You are on the brink of collapse emotionally. Your masculinity, pigheadedness, and ruffian attitude gets kicked to the curb. The thug dwelling inside you goes dormant on you in no time. Your eyes trickle momentarily --- and you panic!

Why do you panic? Because you are NOT allowed to cry! You are nothing but a figment of someone's chauvinist image of you in their head. You are NOT supposed to portray women-like qualities by crying, whining, and choking on your emotions. You must NOT have any other "lump" in your throat besides your existing Adam's apple.

Would you still cry? Are you ALLOWED to cry? You're a man, aren't you? Why do you care what unspeakable problems you're going through? Are you allowed to?

Discuss!

P. S.: I don't know why, but I am really looking forward to RTH's reply. 😊
Edited by -Roshan- - 10 years ago

Originally posted by: -Roshan-

P. S.: I don't know why, but I am really looking forward to RTH's reply. 😊

Edited by King-Anu - 10 years ago

Originally posted by: -Roshan-

Think of a situation. You're a guy - a tough one, that too. You are flanked by your male friends all the time who do nothing but project their hyperactive testosterone levels. You poke fun at random bypassers, you comment on how funny one looks, and you throw wild tantrums at the drop of a hat. You are - what they call - the perfect epitome of a MASCULINE IDENTITY in the society.

However, deep down inside you do have "emotions" that are, perhaps, concealed at times. So it happens one day that you are hurt. You're fragile and vulnerable. You are on the brink of collapse emotionally. Your masculinity, pigheadedness, and ruffian attitude gets kicked to the curb. The thug dwelling inside you goes dormant on you in no time. Your eyes trickle momentarily --- and you panic!

Why do you panic? Because you are NOT allowed to cry! You are nothing but a figment of someone's chauvinist image of you in their head. You are NOT supposed to portray women-like qualities by crying, whining, and choking on your emotions. You must NOT have any other "lump" in your throat besides your existing Adam's apple.

Would you still cry? Are you ALLOWED to cry? You're a man, aren't you? Why do you care what unspeakable problems you're going through? Are you allowed to?

Discuss!

P. S.: I don't know why, but I am really looking forward to RTH's reply. 😊

seriously @bold??? forget man or woman.. does that make you even normal human being?

Originally posted by: LovelyPlanet

seriously @bold??? forget man or woman.. does that make you even normal human being?

Originally posted by: -Roshan-

Apparently that's what stereotypical hooligans do.

My ex used to cry all the time so at some point I started hating men who would cry. But I do think it is okay for guys to cry. I think women would like them to show more emotions and cry now and then. This whole men don't cry thing was probably invented by men.

Crying doesn't indicate that you're weak or weak character. Since birth, it has been a sign that you're alive...,,sometimes it is a sign of strong onions...But you know,I haven't been able to stop crying since that stranger on the internet said that they didn't like me...😭 Edited by Vinzy - 10 years ago

This is an important topic. The society has somehow put a rule that men don't cry. We here from people saying 'men don't cry', 'big boys don't cry' etc. 

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

I'm with LP on this one - I think you have a weird concept of how stereotypical men behave or are supposed to behave. Since when does making fun of people's looks and throwing wild tantrums emotes masculinity?

Anyway, I think it's okay for men to cry. Honestly, I think it's odd if guys (or women) cry regularly or over little things, but I think it's human to cry in a moment of vulnerability or sadness. And I'm sure RTH will tell you that it's not normal if men don't cry, and she will go on to say that men should in fact cry because it's only natural/human and not crying would imply you're an alien. But you can wait for her response. 😆

(Hi, Roshan.)

Nope, that is not MY concept. That is a hypothetical situation I put forward, based on my observation. The point was not to glorify such men; it was to highlight a given situation based on facts. There are boorish, pigheaded men out there who have the audacity to behave that way and call themselves all mardaana and what not. However, when their shit hits the fan, they are in a fix and tend to hide their bloodshot eyes and runny nose under the mask of their masculinity.

Originally posted by: Perfangel5655

My ex used to cry all the time so at some point I started hating men who would cry. But I do think it is okay for guys to cry. I think women would like them to show more emotions and cry now and then. This whole men don't cry thing was probably invented by men.

Or perhaps by a bunch of evil mothers-in-law who expected way too much from their sons-in-law. 😆