why do some people look down at girls who have child out of wedlock or - Page 3

I firmly believe that in human world, both , a man & a woman should be held EQUALLY responsible for bringing a new life on this earth..it takes TWO to make a baby..& for people who cant c it that way , too bad, n good luck with such bigotry life!...however, this question bothered me so much since childhood ( even when i didnt know anything about sex...lol).. y is it that men always seem to get away with what they do & women r crucified for something which the man & the woman both took part in?..( i dint know the mystery of "baby making" 😆 but i did know that if some entity is "the mother" & then the other entity is "the father")... but when i finally turned 12, i got a clear idea of things..

1. To completely understand this bias nature, one needs to go through evolution of mankind ( n y just mankind, it is pretty evident in animal species too)..females r EXTREMELY choosy in selecting their mates owing to the fact that they have to bear the cost of every sexual encounter since the burden of the young ones falls upon them.. this cost of pregnancy is supposedly compensated by the female's right to choose best possible mate & males compete ferociously with each other to prove worthy of mating...now we r ages past the evolution but still some of our previous ideologies remains in our individual brains & society at large, when a guy gets a girl pregnant, the guy gets the credit 4 it ( remember the older times of evolution to know y he gets credit 4 it since the girl accepted him as worthy of mating) & the girl is looked down upon ( she wasnt careful enough,gave in to her sexual desires & did not properly select the best possible mate which is seen as a huge let down to her inherent feminine qualities)...

2.It is sad that people in the modern society ( I am strictly talking about Indian society & do not feel it necessary to mention it since it is posted in "India" forums) view "sex" through the same prism.. people forget that we have moved on from such primitive beings to intelligent human society.. in animal kingdom, females have intercourse only during the "heat" or "ovulation"since sex outside of ovulation period is considered as severe waste of precious energy reserves, it is not so for human females, human females r capable of going in "heat" even when they r not ovulating. n this "heat" is of course at its peak during the ovulation period..point being, human females have evolved into sexual beings which is something given to them by the mother nature itself through ages of evolution..hence, its about time that things like "pre-marital sex"  & "live in relationships" gets its due importance in the modern evolved human society..

3.Coming to the difference between western culture & Indian culture ( i cant speak speak for the middle eastern or Islamic culture & my points r to b taken from an Indian Hindu's perspective).. Hinduism is one of the most liberal & accepting religion of the world.. this is not to say that other religions r not good enough or something like that bcoz i do have immense respect for all the religions in the world..in Hinduism, women r respected left, right & centre..infact Hinduism happens to b one of the strongly feminist religion owing to its Shaktism sect where Goddess Adi Parashakthi is considered the supreme being..so the respect towards women folk begins at the very core of this beautiful religion...women were given much more freedom in ancient times but all that changed after foreign invasions from Mughals & British..all these invasions left their mark in the Hindu population which further led them away from their beutiful religious teachings.. previously, a member included Hindu culture with Middle eastern culture to make a point that such "conservative" religions dont allow equal freedom to women.. i cant speak for Islam, but as a Hindu, i say with some confidence that "conservative" Hinduism does not restrict freedom of women folk..all such atrocities came into existence post 18th-19th century..the religion does not permit such things.. Hindus n others who believe that it does r delusional n need to b taught proper Hinduism..

4. Also, generally speaking, Indian girls in majority or in general r still very much feminine & follow "the proper selection of mate rule" without external pressure..this is in stark contradiction with the western females who have now accepted the "risky rebellious  lifestyle" as a norm.. there r many here who choose to follow that way of life & we must respect that but the majority still trust their intrinsic feminine intuitions to steer through life without succumbing to the pressures of being butch or masculine & leading a risky care free life, we must respect that too... 

5. Finally, Indian religion has a very intriguing concept of Purush & Prakriti ( somewhat similar to adam n eve but not the same) where a man & woman is considered the supreme being in Ardhanarishwar form.. each have their own roles & responsibilities & is not inferior to anyone but complimentary to each other.. so when somebody says certain things r ok for guys but not for girls, it does not necessarily mean that it is some sort of injustice done to the girl..it simply means while the same thing may not b considered derogatory for a guy, it could b considered derogatory for a girl...similarly there r some things that may not b considered derogatory for a girl but will b so 4 a guy..it is a part & parcel of being a "man" or a "woman".. they r two different entities but EQUALLY important...

one last thing, my apologies 4 the LONG post..