Balika Vadhu Written Update 3rd September 2014 - Page 2

Originally posted by: Missesha

Thanks for the update Kikyo.

Haven't watched the epi but commenting on the basis of WU

I am happy and pleased that finally one urban girl, who completed her masters in the best environment possible is going to put her education to proper use.  Saanchi's fears about balancing between home and a proper career are valid. Lot of bahus go through that. So it would be nice to see how things turn out for her. I don't mind seeing her story and her rise & fall in balancing both. Through Suman, it would be nice to see how MILs can be supportive to career oriented bahus, who also have to report to other bosses, maintain time, efficiency and image in their offices.

I don't want to see Saanchi as a super woman here. Let her be a normal woman, who needs help of her hubby and family to support her in various activities of life.

I have been disappointed with Anandi's career which is more of a hobby and Ganga's career is just limited to her own hospital, where she doesn't have the fear to be sacked or performance managed. Neither will she get the opportunity to grow beyond what she is doing. She may one-day becaome a head nurse, but that would be it. Anandi and Ganga are working women but not career-oriented women. Gauri is a career-oriented woman but has a screwed up personal life. Saanchi at this point, has everything stable both personally and professionally.

I like the current JaGan - Lal Singh case. It is being handled well so far and this is real life scenario with doctors. Hope it ends with a nice message.

Wonder where Anandi is going to run away, but I hope this track moves now. It's got stuck. Still Shiv is told that it might just be stress. High time CVs make a progressive move. Let something strike to someone and realise that Anandi is not as well as she appears.  And take steps towards correcting A's situation.

@jia thanx 4 the update.both scenes of JaGan & lal singh & last one r gud. jagya is handling it v.well & wish chetan's family hav 2 pay 4 the damage 2 hospi. an d i think ppl shud b made 2 pay in reality alos 4 behaving like this.

Thank you Jia for the nice update.

Good back to back episodes, Shekhars supporting Anandi on Anoop's outburst was heartwarming.
Anandi - Amol scene was very good too, Anandi will draw strength from her son's protective love.

I also liked watching Jagya taking control of the violent situation at the hospital. Normally doctors won't touch the patient without family's consent, and its always the reverse, the desperate family waits for the doctor to arrive even in emergency cases.

I agree with you @Esha, it was nice to watch Sanchi yesterday, I liked how her MIL encouraged her, that's today's MIL 😊 ! Sanchi doing good for herself, she has got a very lucrative job offer. Looks like her story could turn much interesting and practical compared to the other leading  ladies.

Rain romance was sweet, but  I am just waiting for Anandi to fight back.

Edited by tellygeek - 9 years ago

I find this Sanchi story very plastic and synthetic which is being shoved in.

I couldn't really appreciate the recent track on Gauri, it seemed like a filler.What was the purpose of that track?
But current Sanchi track does look interesting as it may covey a good message if well directed.. Even Anandi needs to come out of this kitchen politics and spread her wings else where.

Serials don't show redemption in proper way anyways. I will talk about J because the forum already labelled me as Jagya hater. But if we see DS - did she suffer for what she had done? For all the crimes she had done - she just had to see that the ladesar left home and the beendni they chose for someone of his own choice and later the family decided to choose the beendni over the ladesar. She just changed and tried to undo the mistakes she had done - like allowing Anandi to study, asking forgiveness from Sumitra and Gahna, and she did marriage of Anandi, Gahna's sister, Gulli, tried to save Ganga instead of going for the family heir route like before etc.  But how did she changed? Did she suffer or did she paid the price for the crimes she had done?  She is still selfish (as with Anandi etc.) and arrogant towards others - clearly visible in Gauri's track. 

I have liked Saanchi's story in parts. Not everything about her story has been boring or irritating. So if this bit of Saanchi's story is well-directed, I am all up for it. Edited by Missesha - 9 years ago

I also want to express why I have this high desire for BV to show normal working women who face challenges in balancing life, instead of showing super women.

The serials change mindset of many and that's I want BV to touch on this topic sensitively. This is because I have seen one bad example in real-life. This is about my friend, who is an MBA and was ambitious about having a strong career. She got married to the younger brother of two brothers who run a joint family business with their father. Her jethani (husband's bhabhi) is also an Engineer, but never expressed any desire to work when she first got married and later was contented in raising her two kids.  When my friend got married and expressed her desire to work, she was just not supported.

She was questioned as to why she needs to work when they have a good business, and do not lack finances. She said, it was to put her education to good use and make an identity apart from monetary gains. On that she was questioned, whether she thinks she is a know-it-all and her jethani is useless because she devotes her time to family

After too many comparisons and nagging, finally she was allowed to work, but on one condition: That she should not neglect any of household duties, and must bear the same share of workload or more as her jethani's, during the times she is at home. After all the jethani and saas has to put up with so much while she is enjoying away at work. This was the mentality.

As if this was not enough, whenever my friend missed something or made a mistake, she would get taunted over the fact that if she can't handle both then she should leave her job.  There was never a talk about supporting her.

And the worst was when her MIL commented after watching a TV show, that if these characters (pointing at lead heroine) can manage their lives so efficiently by doing so much for their sasural walas then why can't you?

And here I am talking about a well-placed, well-to-do, educated family.

Finally, after her first born my friend gave up her dreams. She is now a housewife and earns a lot of respect from her MIL and SIL now then she ever did.

The point is that when such TV shows make propaganda that a woman can handle everything, it raises expectations of those MILs who have never experienced what it takes to have a career. These MILs have a perceived reality, which is far-fetched from actual reality.

I always wanted to see Anandi in that theme, but no more hopes there. Atleast if something is shown through Saanchi, it would be appreciated.

In BV, Anandi, Ganga and Gehna, are all working but on their own accord. They do not have a boss, fear of competition, fear of being performance-managed. But Saanchi will have all that.

Missesha: I've seen just the opposite of what you described. In several instances, I've seen MILs and sasural wale pampering and mollycoddling DILs who work, even handing them tiffin boxes before they went out, whereas the housewife DIL was comparatively ignored or less respected. My friend, to cite an example, got married last year and is a housewife currently. She and her husband live seperately and visit the in-laws from time to time. On her visits, she's (in her own words) forced to put up with half the household work and a barrage of subtle putdowns, whereas another DIL, her devrani, who also lives away from them, reveives a far better treatment whenever she visits, with the MIL insisting on cooking for her and praising her non-stop. This woman, incidentally, is a doctor at a reputed hospital and hails from a less financially well-off family compared to my friend's.

This was just one instance. There are several others that I recorded, so I can optimistically assert that your cousin's was a rarer case.

@ Krystal, I have seen both cases. Edited by Missesha - 9 years ago