Divorce has been seen as a taboo/forbidden topic that has no room in our culture. If a person is divorced, then of course something must be wrong with them.
Besides, how can things go so wrong in such a perfect world, right? There must not be any problems, it must have been just a moment of madness. Woke up one day and said "hey love of my life let's divorce."
Why is it that we don't see the need to know the details behind the decision? Or is it that we just don't have the courage to face the facts. Are we just hoping for things to never breakdown or fall apart so much that when it does we deny it? Let's face it, people don't just get divorce at a drop of a hat (well maybe some do but we're not talking about those people here).
Just because a person - male or female - is divorced that doesn't mean there's something wrong with them. No! Do we know what went wrong in their marriage? Do we even KNOW them? Do we know their circumstances? If the answer is no to all the questions, then you have no right to outcast a person based on their marital status. Even if you knew some answers, the thing is if you're not living it you don't really know anything.
There are so many repercussions of this kind of attitude that we can't even begin to understand it. Short of either party spilling their deepest feelings to you and giving you every detail, anything you think you know is just an assumption made based on bits and pieces. So why do we immediately jump in and say it can't happen?
The stress of divorce affects psychological, emotional, and physical health and to add society's acceptance of that decision to the mix it takes a greater toll on the person. It is not a sin or a crime to get divorced. If a person is not happy in their marriage, they have every right to take themselves out of that unhappy situation. And if the divorce is the key, then more power to them!
Getting a divorce is not the end of the world! If you're divorced, no one can decide for you whether or not, you "fit" into the society. It's like they say, "society is rarely an excellent judge of character." And there will always be some people that will criticize regardless of your actions.
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