Very nice topic Sowmyaa. I have practical experience other way around I tried to be a good mother and father as well for kids since last eleven years. My husband was too close to our kids. In fact at that time, He took care of them more than I did as a mother. But all of a sudden responsibility of mother and father was upon me which I tried my best to be a mother and father for my kids but I failed badly. My sons and my daughter still miss a father's love in their life. Boys seems to be quiet by nature. They normally don't admit that they miss their father but from last 5 to 7 years what my older son went through, I can clearly see that if his father was here, he could have handled the situation better than me. Same with my daughter, even though I am very very close and friendly to her; still if she sees or hear some father talking about how they spend their quality time with their daughters, she starts crying.
Coming to your main topic, when my kids were little, this was always a big question in my mind: If It was me instead of my husband, left these kids alone with their father???? Would it be possible for a man to take care of three kids ( 6 years, 4 years and 8 months old), go to work full time and study part time for better job and better life style in future??? My answers was: No. I don't think so. As there is an old saying: Grief must have an outlet. Ladies cry a lot to releive themselves from any kind of stress but men don't cry. How do they take out their stress??? Either drinking or smoking or both??? If you are in these bad habits, how much you can think about your children's necessities like Diapers, baby food, baby sitters, breakfast, lunch and supper, laundry, grocery, bringing enough income home to pay for mortgae, bills, taxes, car expenses and children's clothes. I can definitely say that it is very very hard for men to be a mother and father both for kids at all stages of life especially if you are a father of a girl. I am not trying to be partial, but it is not easy at all to be both parent to a girl. Girls need their mother the most when they go through teen age and before their wedding.
I don't know what I said above makes any sense to you or not, but I personally think it is more difficult for a father to play mother's role in compare to mother playing father's role.
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